A note from Lina
The decision to start trying for a baby is an important and big decision. When I first embarked on this journey I had no idea what I was going to face, and how much it would affect me both physically and emotionally. Looking back today, I am very grateful for the experience, both the positive and the negative, as it’s shaped who I am and given me strength and resilience that I never imagined I would have.
But looking back, I also wish I had known how important it is to be aware of your emotional health – how to identify signs that things are not going well and what are techniques and resources that may help. What I realise now, is that if I had addressed the emotional challenges that I faced sooner, it would have provided me with resilience on my journey, helped me to navigate challenges and lead to potentially better outcomes.
Why is your emotional health so important during this time? One in seven couples will struggle with infertility. It is very common for women who struggle with infertility to feel lonely, vulnerable, blame themselves and feel ashamed. I know I felt all of these things, sometimes on a daily basis! These feelings, when they are constant, will affect your relationship with yourself and others. My confidence plummeted and it impacted my relationship with my husband, friends and family.
Why is this journey so hard? Up until this stage of my life, I was used to having a plan, putting effort towards that plan, and I knew that if I “worked” on it, I would achieve my goal. With conception and pregnancy all that certainty goes out the window. You realise you have absolutely no control and you need to re-learn how to deal with your goals and challenges. Not to mention the many triggers of negative emotions during this phase: the period every month that reminds you that you didn’t conceive, the pregnant woman on the tube, the friend that got pregnant easily, the baby on the magazine cover, and the list can go on…
Taking care of our emotional health is really important during this phase. Not only because you will most likely be on an emotional roller coaster, but it’s also because this phase is one in which you will lay the foundation for your future family. You relationship with yourself, your partner, family and friends will all change. To create strong healthy families it’s important to take care of your emotional health and build strong and resilient relationships from the start.
Transitions mean change, and this change may mean you feel vulnerable in unexpected ways. But it is also an opportunity for positive change. A time to assess your physical and emotional health and think about what changes you might want to make to improve your health. We will guide you through these changes, and provide support on your journey.
We will empower you to better understand your emotional health, develop skills to improve your emotional health (including mindfulness, relaxation and coping skills) and build healthy relationships.
We’ve designed this 12 week programme for you, which will guide you through understanding your emotional health and learning the skills to improve it. We suggest you set aside a time each week that you can follow the programme. It’s designed to be done alongside the mindfulness meditations, so keep using the meditations each month in time with the rhythm of your natural cycle.
I hope you enjoy learning more and find it useful – if you have any questions, always feel free to reach out to your Adia coach or any of our experts.
A big thank you to Dr Camilla Rosan who’s advice has been invaluable in designing this programme.