Take a moment to think about how you treat yourself when you make a mistake or fail to reach a goal. A lot of us tend to have a very negative internal voice and beat ourselves up when things go wrong. Developing self-compassion can help you be more kind to yourself.

Think of what you would say to a good friend if he or she was facing a difficult or stressful situation. Then, when you find yourself in this kind of situation, direct these compassionate responses towards yourself.

Even if you are not facing a stressful situation, a lot of people have a demanding internal voice. This means using words such as “should” “must” “need.” Try reframing the way you speak to yourself, so you give yourself options and choice – “I could do this” or “I’d like to do this because.”